‘God knows better than you’, I’ve heard my faith whisper this to me in the most chaotic and unnerving situations. My thoughts have a tendency to run wild and I must confess, mostly to the opposite directs of happy.
The past couple of years have taught me how to figure out my negative thoughts and nip them immediately before they turn my perception of reality into something that’s quite pessimistic and critical of the world or just myself. Let’s be real, isolation of any kind is hard on the mind. Having a quiet time in a day after working and socializing and complying with the social norms, seem like a blessing. Now, take all the socializing and change of environment out of the day and think how would it feel to have the luxury of your ‘quiet time’ or just ‘me-time’ for the entire day/week/month/eternity?
Our reality is what we make of it. Our brain has the tendency to believe whatever we feed it and that turns into facts for us. Do you see how important it is for us to keep a check on our thoughts? Our brain generates thoughts. It holds the power of creating our reality and perception of the world that we live in. After reading a couple of theories on how we create our reality, I am starting to understand this one thing clearly; mindset is everything.
There are innumerable books on positive thinking, controlling your mind in a better way, creating faith where it’s missing and so on. Why? Because it all starts with your thoughts. There is a saying, ‘A single positive thought in the morning holds the power to change your entire day’ It does indeed! I know it’s a cliche’d thing to say, aye? BUT it’s only recently, that I figured the importance of it.
Timing will always be off. With a lot of things, plans and schedules. We cannot control the things that happen to us. We do not hold the power to control time. We can try to schedule things in our day but when something happens to us is not in our control. Feeling discouraged when things go wrong is natural. Sitting and feeling sad or overwhelmed after it, is natural too! Staying in that state for a long time that your thought pattern turns negative is (for a few) natural too. The problem with accepting the bad situation and dwelling on it for longer than it took for you to process, is harmful.
I am no different, I feel discouraged very often because I have a tendency to over-expect. So naturally, I feel burnt out emotionally more often than a healthy person should. I have started with positive affirmations the first thing in the morning. I don’t just chant it, I say it with faith. Someone once said “The idea of ‘having it under control’ is futile.” I am not in control of the things that happen to me but I am in control of my thoughts or of how I deal with a disappointment. It’s hard to pull myself up because, for a majority of my life, I have told myself that I am made this way(depressed). Depressing thoughts come often but I am starting to realize the importance of reminding myself that I get to control how long they stay.
We cannot control the storm or choose the waves that hit us but we can trust the one who controls the storm, and ourselves, to know that if we survive we will learn to ride the waves one day. It’s the thought that counts. Our actions are the puppets to our thoughts, and slowly, that makes up for our destiny.